Why Making Time as a Couple After Having Kids Matters
Having a child is life-changing. It shifts routines, priorities, and often, your relationship. Amidst diaper changes and sleep deprivation, it’s easy to lose sight of your partnership—but maintaining that bond is more important than ever. A strong relationship between parents provides emotional stability for children and sets a healthy example of communication, empathy, and love.
Rebuilding Your Relationship - One Gesture at a Time
When you take time to reconnect, you're reinforcing the foundation of your family. Studies show that children thrive when their caregivers are emotionally connected and stable. Even small, intentional moments of connection between parents can have a lasting impact.
Build Your Village Together
Choose Your Trusted Helpers
Surround yourself with family, friends, or neighbors who want to see your family thrive.
Keep Them in the Loop
Use tools like Villie’s Baby Page to keep everyone connected and informed—securely and in one place.
Specific Ways to Ask for Help
Being specific increases the likelihood that your village will show up for you. Ask for:
Babysitting Support for a walk, a dinner out, or sleep-in mornings.
Household Help with cooking, errands, or cleaning.
Pet Care to ease departure for a night out.
Encourage Connection with gift cards, double dates or shared nannies.
Creative Support like organizing activities or appointment help.
Communicate Clearly and Collaboratively
Explain that time together isn’t indulgent—it’s essential. Let your community know how they can help. Collaborate with your partner to identify what tasks are most overwhelming, then ask for support accordingly.
Lean on Technology
Tools like Villie make asking for and receiving help easier. You can:
Update loved ones with milestones and messages.
Share wish lists or childcare needs.
Coordinate help for errands, meals, or activities.
Quick Ideas for Reconnecting
Use your reclaimed time meaningfully:
Take a walk together, even if it’s just around the block.
Sneak out for a coffee date, or desert at home after bedtime.
Rewatch a favorite movie.
Simply talk (not scroll)—just the two of you.
Revisit a favorite hobby or activity you enjoyed before becoming parents.
Your Community Is Ready
Asking for help doesn’t mean failure—it means building a resilient support network. With a strong village behind you, nurturing your relationship becomes possible and natural.
Start building your village today with Villie and reclaim time for the two of you.
Create Your FREE Villie Baby Page Now!
Who is behind Villie?
Melissa Iftimie is a founder, nutrition expert, and advocate for moms. She has three girls—two humans, ages 4 and 1, and a 3-year-old chocolate lab. Through her company Villie, Melissa helps new and expecting moms get the support they want and need. Couple-time is important but tough to prioritize. Her advice? "We hire a babysitter every other weekend from 2-9, so my husband and I both have time to tackle our to-do lists and then come together for a date night!"
Melissa and her family also got to appreciate the support Glüxkind strollers provide as they “made dog walks possible” in their hilly neighbourhood. Read more about what she loved here.
